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Someone new asks you a casual question. Your honest answer is a bit unusual or personal.
1 = I say it anyway
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5 = I replace it with something more comfortable
Q2Pending
A coworker shares something vulnerable.
1 = I open up at the same level
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5 = I listen and support but keep my own experience to myself
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A conversation with people you don't know well gets deep and personal.
1 = I go just as deep
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5 = I engage with their openness but keep mine surface-level
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You're having a rough day and a close friend calls.
1 = They can tell within the first minute
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5 = I keep it to myself unless they ask directly
Q5Pending
Your partner or close family asks "what are you thinking about?"
1 = I tell them the actual thought
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5 = I simplify or say "nothing"
Q6Pending
You're going through something difficult — stress, self-doubt, a private struggle. Your closest people:
1 = Know the full picture because I let them in
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5 = See a filtered version, even them
Q7Pending
You accomplish something you're proud of.
1 = Close friends and family hear about it quickly
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5 = I don't mention it unless asked
Q8Pending
You're alone replaying something that bothered you.
1 = I let myself feel it fully
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5 = I redirect my thoughts to something else
Q9Pending
An uncomfortable truth about yourself surfaces while you're reflecting alone.
1 = I stay with it and explore it
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5 = I acknowledge it but move on quickly
Q10Pending
You have a strong emotional reaction when completely alone.
1 = I let myself fully experience it
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5 = I contain it even though no one is around
Q11Pending
A coworker does something that frustrates you. Looking back a week later:
1 = I never addressed it
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5 = I found a way to address it
Q12Pending
You disagree with a direction being taken at work.
1 = I keep my position to myself
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5 = I make my position known, even if it's uncomfortable
Q13Pending
You're at a social event and realize you don't want to be there.
1 = I stay and make the best of it
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5 = I trust my read and leave
Q14Pending
A close friend keeps doing something that bothers you. Looking back over months:
1 = I've never brought it up
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5 = I've addressed it directly
Q15Pending
A close friend or family member keeps pushing on something you've already said no to — a favor, a visit, a commitment.
1 = I give in to keep the peace
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5 = I hold my boundary, even if it creates friction
Q16Pending
You realize a friendship has run its course — you've grown apart and the connection feels obligatory.
1 = I let it continue as-is indefinitely
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5 = I act on what I see — I pull back, have the conversation, or let it go
Q17Pending
Your partner or close friend makes a plan you genuinely don't want to go along with.
1 = I go along to avoid friction
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5 = I say what I actually want
Q18Pending
A personal project or goal excites you. A month later:
1 = It's still just something I think about
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5 = I've taken concrete steps toward it
Q19Pending
You realize a part of your life isn't working — a job, a habit, a situation.
1 = The realization can sit with me for a long time before I do anything
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5 = Seeing the problem clearly is enough to set me in motion
Q20Pending
You feel a strong emotion while alone — frustration, restlessness, inspiration.
1 = I experience it and it eventually fades
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5 = It becomes fuel — I do something with it
Q21Pending
A stranger is rude to you in passing.
1 = I forget it almost immediately
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5 = It replays in my head longer than I'd like
Q22Pending
Someone in a group subtly dismisses something you said.
1 = I barely notice
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5 = I feel it sharply, even if I don't show it
Q23Pending
You deliver something well at work — a presentation, a project, a result.
1 = Quiet satisfaction, then I move on
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5 = I feel that high for hours
Q24Pending
A close friend sends you a heartfelt compliment out of nowhere.
1 = I appreciate it and move on
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5 = It stays with me for a long time
Q25Pending
Your family cancels a gathering you were looking forward to.
1 = Mild disappointment, I adjust quickly
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5 = It lands harder than it probably should
Q26Pending
Someone close does something small but thoughtful — remembers a detail, leaves a note.
1 = I notice and appreciate it
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5 = It affects me with surprising force
Q27Pending
A close friend or family member casually dismisses something you care about. They don't realize they did it.
1 = It barely registers
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5 = It stays with me long after the conversation
Q28Pending
You're alone and a song tied to a memory comes on.
1 = I notice it and keep going
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5 = It pulls me in completely
Q29Pending
Something small goes well when you're alone — a meal turned out great, a workout felt good.
1 = Mild satisfaction
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5 = A genuine burst of good feeling
Q30Pending
An embarrassing memory from years ago surfaces while you're lying awake.
1 = I brush it off
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5 = I physically react — wince, groan, cover my face
Q31Pending
You present work you're proud of. The response is underwhelming.
1 = I still trust my own assessment of the work
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5 = Their reaction shifts how I feel about my own ability
Q32Pending
Someone new seems unimpressed by you.
1 = I assume we just didn't connect
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5 = I find myself wondering what they noticed about me
Q33Pending
You find out people at work perceive you differently than you perceive yourself.
1 = Interesting data, but my self-image stays the same
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5 = I start seeing myself more through their eyes
Q34Pending
You meet someone roughly your age who has accomplished significantly more than you in your field.
1 = I appreciate their path without it changing how I see mine
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5 = I start questioning whether I'm where I should be
Q35Pending
A close friend criticizes a major choice — your job, a relationship, a lifestyle decision.
1 = I hear them but my sense of myself doesn't shift
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5 = It stays with me and I start reevaluating who I am, not just the decision
Q36Pending
Your partner or someone close expresses disappointment in something you did.
1 = I consider whether they have a point, but my sense of self stays stable
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5 = Their disappointment makes me feel like I've failed as a person
Q37Pending
Your family doesn't approve of a major life choice.
1 = I'm at peace with going my own way
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5 = Their disapproval makes me question whether I know what I'm doing
Q38Pending
You're reflecting alone on where you are in life. Your reference point is:
1 = Whether I'm living by my own values and standards
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5 = How I stack up against what others have achieved or what's expected
Q39Pending
You accomplish something meaningful but nobody knows about it.
1 = It feels complete on its own
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5 = It doesn't fully register until someone else sees it
Q40Pending
You try something in private — a project, a skill — and it doesn't turn out well. No one knows.
1 = I assess it by my own standards of effort and growth
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5 = I can't stop evaluating it by how others would judge the result
Q41Pending
A coworker is visibly anxious before a big presentation. You have nothing at stake.
1 = I can see they're anxious but I feel calm inside
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5 = I notice my own body getting tense alongside theirs
Q42Pending
You walk into a room where the mood is heavy — people are drained, flat, discouraged. You felt fine before entering.
1 = My mood stays where it was
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5 = Within minutes, I've taken on the heaviness myself
Q43Pending
A stranger near you is visibly upset — crying on a call, sitting with their head in their hands.
1 = I notice and feel compassion, but my internal state stays steady
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5 = I feel a genuine drop in my own body — heaviness, sinking, ache
Q44Pending
A close friend is going through a hard time.
1 = I'm fully there for them but my own mood stays separate
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5 = Their weight becomes my weight
Q45Pending
Your partner or someone close is stressed and irritable — not at you, just generally wound up.
1 = I can be around their tension without catching it
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5 = I start feeling tense and on-edge too, even though nothing happened to me
Q46Pending
A family member is genuinely excited about something in their life.
1 = I'm happy for them, but my own emotional state stays about the same
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5 = I feel a rush of excitement in my own body, as if the news were mine
Q47Pending
Someone close to you is grieving. After spending time with them:
1 = I feel for them but carry my own separate emotional state
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5 = I feel the grief in my own body — not about the loss, but because their pain got into me
Q48Pending
You're alone after a day around someone who was noticeably anxious.
1 = I reset quickly
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5 = Their tension is still in my body
Q49Pending
You spent the evening with someone radiating genuine joy — laughing, light, fully alive. You're home alone now.
1 = I had a great time, but I'm back to my own emotional baseline
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5 = Their joy is still physically buzzing in me
Q50Pending
Think about the last time you were around someone in real emotional pain. A few days later:
1 = I remember the situation clearly but don't re-feel their pain
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5 = Thinking about it pulls their pain back into my body
